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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #60 on: May 07, 2012, 03:33:00 am »
The sad part is that you didn't see it coming and you still have no clue why.  Sad that she wasn't woman enough to be real with you.  I mean you probably would have still helped her with her paperwork and broke her off with some dough regardless.

It just seems like there is something more to the story.


Of course there is more to the story atleast from her side. I have accepted the fact that there are questions that will never be answered.

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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #61 on: May 07, 2012, 03:36:56 am »
Dayum she got you living in your grandmom's basement..writing your name on the orange juice..You gotta do something man!


If read the title of the thread, it tells you i did do something. She will vacate the home July 1st at that point I will regain my home. I'm living with my nana but I'm not in the basement. :rotfl:
Writing my name on the orange juice? What does that mean?

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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #62 on: May 07, 2012, 06:28:58 am »
I don't understand why couldn't she just tell you she no longer wanted to be with you.. Why put herself and yours trough all of this crap. Stay strong, GD. Soon this nightmare will end, you deserve way better than a woman like that.

How about the son? Was he there when everything happened?


Was he around when the alledged brutal attack upon my wife?...YES. He had to have heard the pounding of her head on the floor, the brutal punch as she screamed at the top her lungs. And when I picked her up by the head of her hair and threw her to the floor as she made a thump on the ground. Could you imagine a 12 year old boy hearing all of that? What do you think he would do? Let me tell you what happened, I cooked dinner and he and I ate dinner TOGETHER, yes together 1 hour after she said I beat her.

I am pissed today. Perfect weather and I would be smoking a few slabs of ribs, wings and sausage. Preparing for the big boxing match as a few friends would come by. We would laugh, drink some spirits and watch a good match.

What did I do today? Went to the movies, by myself. Went to dinner, by myself. The Avengers is a great flick. And home in my PJ's.

Today when I went to get a few things from the home, he was not there.
What is it going to take for you to move on with your life?.

Plain and simple, she took advantage of you........

You either acknowledge that or be miserable.

Every time you think of the "good old time", the "happy moments", all the money you spent and all you did for her and her family members, think about what she did at the end.

Allow the latter to make your heart "hard" and maybe, just MAYBE you will be able to move on with your life.

You are starting to sound as if you loved her more than you loved yourself.

When you do as such, ONLY heartache will come your way.

Keep busy........call your friends/friends........hang out with them.....take a few days off......spend quality time with YOURSELF.........

MOVE ON!.


With all due respect..
Phuck that. I have a right to be pissed.
It's gonna take time, it's a little fresh. My heart will harden as time passes.
I'm just having a tough day, I haven't had a day like this in weeks.
I assume that tomorrow will be better.
Being angry and venting keeps my mind on the ultimate goal.
I guess I have a very strong mind.

I have been married for waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more years than you.....I have more "good times" than you.......and let me tell you, If MrsLaDura did to me HALF of what your wife did to you, she would be out of my mind within minutes.

And I wouldn't give a shit about our "good times" and/or all I did for her.

I would be thanking my lucky stars she is not in my life anymore.

Again, you will ONLY think the way I do if you have a strong mind and love yourself more than you love her.

It sounds to me you did, AND DO, love her more.

The fastest you let it go, the fastest you will feel better.

Don't get me wrong, I do understand from where you are coming from, but you really need to move on with your life.

She is, as we speak, having the time of your life while you, on the other hand, can't let things go.

In other words, she has you EXACTLY where she wanted.

In other words, she won.

Cut the man some slack Duro. When you truely love someone even when they betray you, you don't stop loving them overnight. Say what you want about MrsLaDura but unless you been in that situation you really can't say what you would do. She may be out of your mind in minutes but I promise you it would take a whole hella of alot longer than that to get her out of your heart. This man is trying to move on with his life but I know from experience it's easier said than done. Keep ya head up GD!!!

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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #63 on: May 07, 2012, 07:19:12 am »
What are you talking about, women!
Don’t you get it?
This whole thread is not about Gwash and his problems It’s all about Him!
We all should be humbled in the presence of Greatness…
Seriously, I’m glad at least one person here dares to say it to Him:
Knock it off, scum bag! Leave the men be! Let him deal with his disaster and
get over it.
Good post. :yeah:
« Last Edit: May 07, 2012, 07:42:33 am by miguelito »

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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #64 on: May 07, 2012, 07:29:06 am »
What are you talking about, women!
Don’t you get it?
This whole thread is not about Gwash and his problems It’s all about Him!
We all should be humbled in the presents of Greatness…
Seriously, I’m glad at least one person here dares to say it to Him:
Knock it off, scum bag! Leave the men be! Let him deal with his disaster and
get over it.
Good post. :yeah:
Is that you, WOMAN?..........

It didn't take long for you to come out from the bottom of your letrina.

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Leave the "mEn be"?.....never mind, I keep forgetting you are stupid in 3 languages.........and an imbecile.  :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #65 on: May 07, 2012, 07:31:47 am »
...If MrsLaDura did to me HALF of what your wife did to you, she would be out of my mind within minutes....


you're a  stronger man than I am Duro. In college a chick cheated on me. I took a semester off just to get over that chick. Why do guys think, i always say all my ex's are dead. being dead in my mind is my coping mechanism  :rotfl: I would crack if this happened to me in a marriage.
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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #66 on: May 07, 2012, 08:07:21 am »
...If MrsLaDura did to me HALF of what your wife did to you, she would be out of my mind within minutes....


you're a  stronger man than I am Duro. In college a chick cheated on me. I took a semester off just to get over that chick. Why do guys think, i always say all my ex's are dead. being dead in my mind is my coping mechanism  :rotfl: I would crack if this happened to me in a marriage.
Sonny, I had an "old lady" in High School (we were in the same grade but she was 2 year older) that I was crazy about.

Would do ANYTHING for her.......my first love.

Dated her for about 2 years........we spent ALL our time together.

One day she told me a guy asked for her number and she gave it to him....she said that even though she knew he liked her, that she didn't.

I asked her "then why did you give it to him?".......no reply.

Found out a few weeks later that the guy called her a few times.......she didn't tell me.

Same day I found out, I asked her.......she said yes but that it was all innocent.

I said "ok, we are done".........and never looked back.

Started dating another girl the following day.  :rotfl: :rotfl:

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« Reply #67 on: May 07, 2012, 08:09:18 am »

Cut the man some slack Duro. When you truely love someone even when they betray you, you don't stop loving them overnight. Say what you want about MrsLaDura but unless you been in that situation you really can't say what you would do. She may be out of your mind in minutes but I promise you it would take a whole hella of alot longer than that to get her out of your heart. This man is trying to move on with his life but I know from experience it's easier said than done. Keep ya head up GD!!!
Cut the man some slack?......

That man is a grown man, not a child, therefore I WILL talk to him like a man.

What, you want me to hold his hand and sing Kumbayah, my Lord"?......... not happening.

I am voicing my opinion.....and you know what they say about opinions and buttholes, right?.....everybody has one.

I know EXACTLY what I would do.........and I don't need to be in THAT situation to know it.........

If someone uses me, takes advantage of me and then lies to the police AFTER I have done so much for her.....and after I spent some much money bringing her here, not to mention going through the frustrating visa process, it will take me less than a minute to get her out of my heart and mind!.

What she did would erase every single good memory I have of her.........YES, eve if I loved her.

But that's me.....and I don't expect ANYBODY to be like me.

Strong mind, strong heart.
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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #68 on: May 07, 2012, 08:17:01 am »

Cut the man some slack Duro. When you truely love someone even when they betray you, you don't stop loving them overnight. Say what you want about MrsLaDura but unless you been in that situation you really can't say what you would do. She may be out of your mind in minutes but I promise you it would take a whole hella of alot longer than that to get her out of your heart. This man is trying to move on with his life but I know from experience it's easier said than done. Keep ya head up GD!!!
Cut the man some slack?......

That man is a grown man, not a child, therefore I WILL talk to him like a man.

What, you want me to hold his hand and sing Kumbayah, my Lord"?......... not happening.

I am voicing my opinion.....and you know what they say about opinions and buttholes, right?.....everybody has one.

I know EXACTLY what I would do.........and I don't need to be in THAT situation to know it.........

If someone uses me, takes advantage of me and then lies to the police AFTER I have done so much for her.....and after I spent some much money bringing her here, not to mention going through the frustrating visa process, it will take me less than a minute to get her out of my heart and mind!.

What she did would erase every single good memory I have of her.........YES, eve if I loved her.

But that's me.....and I don't expect ANYBODY to be like me.

Strong mind, strong heart.

Ok whatever talk that talk ElDuro.

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« Reply #69 on: May 07, 2012, 08:58:50 am »

Cut the man some slack Duro. When you truely love someone even when they betray you, you don't stop loving them overnight. Say what you want about MrsLaDura but unless you been in that situation you really can't say what you would do. She may be out of your mind in minutes but I promise you it would take a whole hella of alot longer than that to get her out of your heart. This man is trying to move on with his life but I know from experience it's easier said than done. Keep ya head up GD!!!
Cut the man some slack?......

That man is a grown man, not a child, therefore I WILL talk to him like a man.

What, you want me to hold his hand and sing Kumbayah, my Lord"?......... not happening.

I am voicing my opinion.....and you know what they say about opinions and buttholes, right?.....everybody has one.

I know EXACTLY what I would do.........and I don't need to be in THAT situation to know it.........

If someone uses me, takes advantage of me and then lies to the police AFTER I have done so much for her.....and after I spent some much money bringing her here, not to mention going through the frustrating visa process, it will take me less than a minute to get her out of my heart and mind!.

What she did would erase every single good memory I have of her.........YES, eve if I loved her.

But that's me.....and I don't expect ANYBODY to be like me.

Strong mind, strong heart.

Ok whatever talk that talk ElDuro.
Diva, like Spanish people love to say, "Cada cabeza es un mundo"........basically, not 2 people are the same, we are all different, if you know what I mean.
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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #70 on: May 07, 2012, 04:30:27 pm »
Greg, everything you are feeling is totally normal. If it all part of the "healing" process. The hardest part is knowing that you may not ever get the answers, and sometimes there just simply aren't any,  to some of the "questions" and the "why's" you can have in your head, and you will know that you are slowly getting over it when the answers are no longer important. Patience, my friend. One day at a time..... Stay strong!
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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #71 on: May 07, 2012, 05:44:52 pm »
Believe me after a while the answers are irrelevent. Just keep looking forward... everyday you overcome is a success. Count your blessings.
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« Reply #72 on: May 07, 2012, 08:40:45 pm »
I finally got my answers 6 years after he left!!!  I've known the man over 21 years!  You might be waiting a while for your answers, and maybe you will never get them.  Either way move on!

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Re: Disaster struck but I fought back!!!!!
« Reply #73 on: May 08, 2012, 08:43:37 am »
GD~ Only time will heal your wounds. Not many people have the ability to go through their emotions. You were betrayed and you have the right to feel hurt..anger.... I consider Weak those who can't confront their issues... and on the contrary, you are dealing with your issues as they happen.

When I was going through my pain- I use to post and some responses were negative and hurtful. Eventually I avoided posting b/c many people were inconsiderate of your emotions. Some people deal with things through anger... and others through emotions. I suggest therapy, talking to a professional and receiving accurate responses may be beneficial. 

 

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