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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #40 on: July 25, 2010, 09:15:05 am »
Okay let me now give all the details. Back in November, he went to see his ex-girlfriend who lives a couple of towns over. That should be have a big red flag, but I couldn't prove he really went to see her because he is friends with her brother. At first, he didn't even tell me he went, but in his wallet I found a train ticket, a condom, and his wedding ring!  Then I recieved a very informative phone call from a friend (who is also a member on here) that Richie was telling people in DR that he was using me to get here to be with his ex-girlfriend.
 
 So I let it go because I was 4 months preggo at the time and I really didn't have proof, or maybe I just didn't want to beleive it.

Okay lets fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. He went to a party by himself because I didn't want to go because of the baby. So, I drove him there because he doesn't have a car or his licesnse. In the meantime, we have been having more  problems. So 2 nights after the party, he deciedes he wants to sleep in the baby's room. He had been texting more and on the phone late at night. I went to check his phone while he was in the shower and he jumped out of the shower to take the phone away, but I saw a picture of a girl in her bathing suit. He said she was just a friend, but 2 days later a found messages that said besome, abrazome, or however you say it. So I took down the number and called the girl. She was totally surprized.  She said they only saw each other once after the party, at a carnival which I had been asking him to go with me all week, but we never went.  He went with HER instead  :beathorse:
 
She told me he told her that the marriage was a business deal for him to come here and that I have a boyfriend here, and that we only had sex twice and I accidently got pregnant and that our baby is 10 months old! (she is only 3 months!) What scares me more than anything is all of the lies he told her.  If he is telling her that then how many lies has he told me. And I know she is telling the truth because they were on the phone and she connected me in on the call.
 
His only defense for the whole thing is that he never had sex with her, but that is because I stopped before anything could really happen. By the way, she is only 17. She says she will help me out in anyway I need, but she says that if I deport him she would feel like it's her fault.  
 
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Re: I Think I've Been Used
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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #41 on: July 25, 2010, 09:21:30 am »
Oh Megan. What a mess and what a sankie. I am so grossed out by him. Please tell me you do not believe him (or her) when they say they have never had sex. I would NOT trust the gf either. She just might be helping you out because she wants him in the end. And of course she does not want you to deport him...not because she will feel bad but because she will also lose him. Oh Megan, so sorry this is all happening but you need to up the dose of ghetto in you and get street smart. Do not let these bagamundos screw with you!

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« Reply #42 on: July 25, 2010, 09:25:38 am »
Oh Megan. What a mess and what a sankie. I am so grossed out by him. Please tell me you do not believe him (or her) when they say they have never had sex. I would NOT trust the gf either. She just might be helping you out because she wants him in the end. And of course she does not want you to deport him...not because she will feel bad but because she will also lose him. Oh Megan, so sorry this is all happening but you need to up the dose of ghetto in you and get street smart. Do not let these bagamundos screw with you!

I am so agree with you, I think this is a plot so he can move with his gf, he knows shes telling his wife everything so she can file for divorve cause his sankie ass is too broke right now. Megan its a plot youre being taken to the cleaners dont trust anyone as Mexicana said.

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« Reply #43 on: July 25, 2010, 09:55:28 am »
Oh Megan. What a mess and what a sankie. I am so grossed out by him. Please tell me you do not believe him (or her) when they say they have never had sex. I would NOT trust the gf either. She just might be helping you out because she wants him in the end. And of course she does not want you to deport him...not because she will feel bad but because she will also lose him. Oh Megan, so sorry this is all happening but you need to up the dose of ghetto in you and get street smart. Do not let these bagamundos screw with you!

I am so agree with you, I think this is a plot so he can move with his gf, he knows shes telling his wife everything so she can file for divorve cause his sankie ass is too broke right now. Megan its a plot youre being taken to the cleaners dont trust anyone as Mexicana said.

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #44 on: July 25, 2010, 10:22:00 am »
wow, I feel sooooooooo sorry for you.And, there is a child involved.I would go to the court and get a restraining order and say that you are scared of him.That will get him out of the house.One girl,two girls, who gives a damn,get your brothers,whoever the police and get him out.The courts will help you.Because you relationship just started, INS won't give him shit permanent as he did everything falsely.Don't listen to him or feel sorry for him.That jerk,I wish you lived near me,I would go over and throow him out of the house!!!

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #45 on: July 25, 2010, 10:28:50 am »
OH okkkk there are two girls, so which one is which and how do you know they are telling the ruth. Mexicana is right, it could be a plot against you...Please be careful and don't trust anyone....you already been through enough...NOw you should get that restraining order,....think the most important thing is your baby right now.
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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #46 on: July 25, 2010, 10:36:03 am »
true, get the restraining order.Protect yourself and your baby.My heart feels for you.My SO's babysmomma started crap with us when i went there, but it was all a lie for her to get me to believe her and it was all lies.SHe said all kinds of shit,but he denied it and what she told me didn't check out.As soon as she saw that i didn't believe her, she backed down and left us alone.

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« Reply #47 on: July 25, 2010, 12:05:58 pm »
So so sorry you are going through this, to late to be sorry for things and for us to sit here and throw things in your face.  We are here to help you cope with this, know that you owe your friend (the other member here) an apology as she seemed to try to warn you but you were blinded but love and hopes.  You brought him here with a K1 visa and he already received his GC so I believe that there is nothing you can but do look into your options. The whole child support thing people swear by it by I am one of those members that can say don't stress it unless he is making damn good money on the books, I get $50 a month.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, there are members that may read it and can take away from it and open their eyes. 

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #48 on: July 25, 2010, 12:14:02 pm »
GET HIM THE HELL OUT!!!! Where there is a will there is a way....YOU need to be in YOUR house with YOUR baby!!!!!!!!!!

He is SCUM!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel really bad for you....these are situations you don't even wish on your worst enemy....try to be strong for your daughter and tougher....

It doesn't seem like it AT ALL now, but everthing happens for a reason and there will be better days....

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #49 on: July 25, 2010, 03:40:26 pm »
Megan, first off, I am so sorry this is happening. TIme does heal all wounds and you will get through this.

Get him out of the house as everyone is saying ?? My question is, how? You are a married couple and it is his house just as much as it is yours, as I would think it is regardless to whose name it is in. Cheating ( as one said) I do not believe is abuse in the sense that the police would remove him or a restraining order would be granted. You have to find out on what grounds a restraining order can be granted, and then folloow through with that. Secondly, begin the divorce process with an attorney. Have you spoken to one yet ? Let that be your next step, and also find out from the attorney what obligations you have to him regarding your daughter. Tell the attorney how he threated to take the baby, etc..... (though I do not think he ever would), and see what they advise you. DO NOT have someone throw him out, or take him out, for it is probably not legal, again, it is his house, and this would only hurt your side of it. Please speak to an attorney and see what legal routes you can take. I am trying to give you logical advice and not emotional advice. Emotionally, I would tell you to tie his ass to the next plane leaving for DR ughhhh!!!!!! What an asshole he is, but what a loss he took!!!!
I wish you the very best of luck. He had a good thing, don't know why he would have wanted to mess that up. You deserve better.  :luv:
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« Reply #50 on: July 25, 2010, 03:53:46 pm »
Okay let me now give all the details. Back in November, he went to see his ex-girlfriend who lives a couple of towns over. That should be have a big red flag, but I couldn't prove he really went to see her because he is friends with her brother. At first, he didn't even tell me he went, but in his wallet I found a train ticket, a condom, and his wedding ring!  Then I recieved a very informative phone call from a friend (who is also a member on here) that Richie was telling people in DR that he was using me to get here to be with his ex-girlfriend.
 
 So I let it go because I was 4 months preggo at the time and I really didn't have proof, or maybe I just didn't want to beleive it.

Okay lets fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. He went to a party by himself because I didn't want to go because of the baby. So, I drove him there because he doesn't have a car or his licesnse. In the meantime, we have been having more  problems. So 2 nights after the party, he deciedes he wants to sleep in the baby's room. He had been texting more and on the phone late at night. I went to check his phone while he was in the shower and he jumped out of the shower to take the phone away, but I saw a picture of a girl in her bathing suit. He said she was just a friend, but 2 days later a found messages that said besome, abrazome, or however you say it. So I took down the number and called the girl. She was totally surprized.  She said they only saw each other once after the party, at a carnival which I had been asking him to go with me all week, but we never went.  He went with HER instead  :beathorse:
 
She told me he told her that the marriage was a business deal for him to come here and that I have a boyfriend here, and that we only had sex twice and I accidently got pregnant and that our baby is 10 months old! (she is only 3 months!) What scares me more than anything is all of the lies he told her.  If he is telling her that then how many lies has he told me. And I know she is telling the truth because they were on the phone and she connected me in on the call.
 
His only defense for the whole thing is that he never had sex with her, but that is because I stopped before anything could really happen. By the way, she is only 17. She says she will help me out in anyway I need, but she says that if I deport him she would feel like it's her fault.  
 
I know this is a lot of babbling but there is a lot of stuff and my computer is broken so sorry for bad the typing.
 
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I'll tell it to you ElDuroStyle and if it offends you, it offends you.

The way you are treating this serious situation shows me that it's just a matter of time before he convinces you to take him back.

If you really wanted to get rid of him you would find a way, any way.

You owe that asshole NOTHING. Other than deporting his sorry ass.

He made his own bed.

If it has even crossed your mind to not have him deported because of your kid, I hope you understand that even if you don't, he will not help you support the kid. Unless forced by the Courts.

Call the fucking police and tell them he pushed you around and that you need an order of protection against him. Watch how fast they take him out of the house.

Who cares if you are lying, what he did to you and your kid is 1,000 times more hurtful.

Who gives a shit if the other girl says she will feel guilty if he gets deported. This is not about her, it's about you and what he did to you. You don't need her if you really wanted to deport him.

GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS, WOMAN, AND DEPORT THAT HIJO DE PUTA!.
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« Reply #51 on: July 25, 2010, 03:56:06 pm »
Oh and Megan, IF it was me.... I would tell this girl (that says that she is willing to help you)

That you don't know if she could be of any help but that you appreciate her offer. Tell her to give you her NAME and ADDRESS (see if she does), and your attorney will contact her if you need her. And then let your attorney call her in for a depostition. (and see if she shows)....

I would not engage in any more conversation with her beyond that.

Also, tell her that as far as the deportation, your not even thinking that far ahead yet, you just want to divorce him right now. For this is the truth..... (one step at a time), for he only  has his conditional residency. Deal with that after the divorce.
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« Reply #52 on: July 25, 2010, 04:01:15 pm »
Okay let me now give all the details. Back in November, he went to see his ex-girlfriend who lives a couple of towns over. That should be have a big red flag, but I couldn't prove he really went to see her because he is friends with her brother. At first, he didn't even tell me he went, but in his wallet I found a train ticket, a condom, and his wedding ring!  Then I recieved a very informative phone call from a friend (who is also a member on here) that Richie was telling people in DR that he was using me to get here to be with his ex-girlfriend.
 
 So I let it go because I was 4 months preggo at the time and I really didn't have proof, or maybe I just didn't want to beleive it.

Okay lets fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. He went to a party by himself because I didn't want to go because of the baby. So, I drove him there because he doesn't have a car or his licesnse. In the meantime, we have been having more  problems. So 2 nights after the party, he deciedes he wants to sleep in the baby's room. He had been texting more and on the phone late at night. I went to check his phone while he was in the shower and he jumped out of the shower to take the phone away, but I saw a picture of a girl in her bathing suit. He said she was just a friend, but 2 days later a found messages that said besome, abrazome, or however you say it. So I took down the number and called the girl. She was totally surprized.  She said they only saw each other once after the party, at a carnival which I had been asking him to go with me all week, but we never went.  He went with HER instead  :beathorse:
 
She told me he told her that the marriage was a business deal for him to come here and that I have a boyfriend here, and that we only had sex twice and I accidently got pregnant and that our baby is 10 months old! (she is only 3 months!) What scares me more than anything is all of the lies he told her.  If he is telling her that then how many lies has he told me. And I know she is telling the truth because they were on the phone and she connected me in on the call.
 
His only defense for the whole thing is that he never had sex with her, but that is because I stopped before anything could really happen. By the way, she is only 17. She says she will help me out in anyway I need, but she says that if I deport him she would feel like it's her fault.  
 
I know this is a lot of babbling but there is a lot of stuff and my computer is broken so sorry for bad the typing.
 
Thanks for listening my DTTUSA family!  :luv:
I'll tell it to you ElDuroStyle and if it offends you, it offends you.

The way you are treating this serious situation shows me that it's just a matter of time before he convinces you to take him back.

If you really wanted to get rid of him you would find a way, any way.

You owe that asshole NOTHING. Other than deporting his sorry ass.

He made his own bed.

If it has even crossed your mind to not have him deported because of your kid, I hope you understand that even if you don't, he will not help you support the kid. Unless forced by the Courts.
Call the fucking police and tell them he pushed you around and that you need an order of protection against him. Watch how fast they take him out of the house.

Who cares if you are lying, what he did to you and your kid is 1,000 times more hurtful.

Who gives a shit if the other girl says she will feel guilty if he gets deported. This is not about her, it's about you and what he did to you. You don't need her if you really wanted to deport him.

GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS, WOMAN, AND DEPORT THAT HIJO DE PUTA!.



Yup, and even if forced by the courts, what would you get, $20 a month ... :fu:
And even that would probably end as soon as he is out of status, for he would be illegal.... Megan, do what you have to do.
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10/03/08 - rec'd (VSC)
10/07/08 - NOA 1
10/13/08 - updated
10/27/08 - updated
10/28/08 - updated
05/12/09 - NOA2
05/14/09 - entered into system at NVC
05/28/09 - choice of agent emailed
05/28/09 - AOS fee paid online
06/01/09 - AOS mailed
06/02/09 - AOS received
06/05/09 - AOS entered in NVC system
06/11/09 - COA accepted
06/12/09 - IV bill rec'd
06/12/09 - IV bill paid
06/16/09 - DS230 mailed
06/17/09 - False RFE mailed for DS-230
06/17/09 - DS230 received
06/17/09 - AOS completed
07/01/09 - CASE COMPLETE :)
07/16/09 - Medical Exam Done

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10/22/08 - rec'd (VSC)
10/28/08 - updated
05/12/09 - NOA2
05/18/09 - SDO# rec'd
05/18/09 - hard copy sent as well as electronically
05/19/09 - electronic copy received
05/27/09 - hard copy received and qualified for cita

08/03/09 - cita APPROVED !

08/07/09 - visa in hand (sti)

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07/27/11 - rec'd (VSC)
07/29/11 - NOA
08/01/11 - cashed check
09/09/11 - Bio letter rec'd
10/03/11 - Biometrics appt.

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #53 on: July 25, 2010, 04:22:52 pm »
Megan,

Before Divorce, Before Deportation, Even before consulting with an attorney: GET TESTED.  From the looks of things, this sankie is a fucking pig!!! 

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #54 on: July 25, 2010, 06:12:44 pm »
Megan,

Before Divorce, Before Deportation, Even before consulting with an attorney: GET TESTED.  From the looks of things, this sankie is a fucking pig!!! 

She's done that during her pregnancy I would think  ???

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #55 on: July 26, 2010, 12:22:06 pm »
So so sorry you are going through this, to late to be sorry for things and for us to sit here and throw things in your face.  We are here to help you cope with this, know that you owe your friend (the other member here) an apology as she seemed to try to warn you but you were blinded but love and hopes.  You brought him here with a K1 visa and he already received his GC so I believe that there is nothing you can but do look into your options. The whole child support thing people swear by it by I am one of those members that can say don't stress it unless he is making damn good money on the books, I get $50 a month.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, there are members that may read it and can take away from it and open their eyes. 

Koukela, make sure you do your research cause as they say in DR cuando el rio suena es porque piedras lleva (when the river makes noise its cause its dragging stones).

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #56 on: July 27, 2010, 08:30:29 am »
You said you were scared, right?  Assuming the fear is of being abused or having your child taken away, you can indeed get an order of protection.  You need to get it through the FAMILY COURTS--not a criminal one done by the criminal courts. There clinics run in lots of family courts that will help you do the paper work.  In your petition, ask for full custody and that he not be allowed to your residence.

An alternative is to go home and tell him to get out.  If he doesn't and is threatening you, call the police.  It is your home and from his salary, it sounds like you pay for it.  So he has no right to be there, even if you are married. 

The other alternative is to do what Bangin' did, which I really like. It's quick and easy.  When changing the locks, make sure the windows are done and done well. If he comes banging on doors etc., immediately call the police.  Harassment and threats are crimes.

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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #57 on: July 27, 2010, 12:09:22 pm »
i'm sorry for you... but what happened to your best friend the one who introduced the two of you, his cousin, right?   
Timeline:
I130 mailed on March 7, 08 Vermont
NOA1 -Recvd' March 12, 08
NOA2 -Recvd' November 12, 08
SDO# Assigned 11/14/08
AOS AFFADAVIT Fee Generated and Paid Online 11/24/08
AOS Fee Collected, WOW that was fast i did it last night 11/25/08
IV BILL GENERATED 12/2/08 AND PAID ONLINE
IV BILL COLLECTED 12/3/08
IV DS230 MAILED 12/3/08 PM
IV DS230 RCVD 12/4/08
THE WAIT STARTS AGAIN NOW
12/24/2008 CASE COMPLETED AT NVC :)

CITA;  APRIL 8, 2009 APPROVED
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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #58 on: July 28, 2010, 05:58:57 am »
Honestly in all the Megan has written, I feel that she has her doubts about getting deported or doing anything in her power to really hurt him or do anything that will hurt his life here in the future.

She just does not seem like a person who wants at all costs to get rid of this guys...Megan are you having doubts? do you really think he can change????
08/25/07 - 1st Trip (Met Hubby)
11/22-27/07 - 2nd Trip (Got together)
12/15-26/07 - 3rd Trip (First X-Mas)
02/08-17/08 - 4th Trip (First Valentines)
04/05-14/08 - 5th Trip (His B-Day & Wedding)
05/24-27/08 - 6th Trip (Honeymoon in Punta Cana)
06/18-22/08 - 7th Trip (My B-Day)
08/01-03/08 - 8th Trip (Surprise Baby)
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11/18/08 - Received NOA I-797 (Application approved)
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12/02/08 - Received SDO #
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03/31/09 - Sent DS-230 Part I & II
04/01/09 - DS-230 Part I & II Received
04/14/09 - Received Email Requesting Additional Documents (2X2 Pics)
04/14/09 - Hubby UPS Pics Overnight
04/16/09 - Sent 2X2 Pics
04/17/09 - Pics Received
04/21/09 - called NVC to find out if everything was ok, good!
05/14/09 - Case Complete
06/12 - 06/21/09 - 13th Trip (My B-Day)
07/24/09 - Medical Done!
08/06/09 - Cita - Approved then put on AR!
12/09/09 - AR cleared - FINALLY
12/27/09 - Going to DR w/Baby
Mid January Coming Back with HUBBY
01/14/10 - POE with Hubby, Baby & StepSon JFK
10/19/11 - Filed I-751
11/28/11 - Biometrics Appointment
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Re: I Think I've Been Used
« Reply #59 on: July 29, 2010, 07:01:23 am »
Megan,

So sorry girl. But the little one should give you strength to do the right thing. Whatever you do, you have to do it for the best of your child. You have to protect and give the best and happiest life to you daughter not fights, tears and sufferring.

Love,
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Married:                                        10/14/08
I-130: Mailed                                10/28/08
Case Completed                            3/17/09
CITA!!!!                                         5/15/09  - Approved
Keiler Argelis is born in SDQ 1 hr before our scheduled POE flight  - 5/23/09

Finally 2nd successful attempt at POE on 6/12/09 as a family of 3!

LIFTING CONDITIONS:
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5/12/11 - Mailed I-751 via Certified Mail
5/16/11 - NOA1
6/27/11 - Biometrics Appt
10/5/11 - GC production ordered
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7/12/2010 Being in love with your family is the best feeling in the world!

 

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